I shot these quick
images sometime last year (before I cut my hair obvs.) and I completely forgot
to use them except for the 2 I posted on Instagram. I’m wearing a skirt from
local brand Dear Makena Apparel which is run by the lovely Karen and houses the
quaintest selection of handmade cotton skirts. Find them on Instagram here.
2016 had been a real challenge of a year. Not only was it one
giant dumpster fire for the entire planet, but I also experienced some real
challenges in my personal life. I generally don't really do resolutions because
I believe I am always a work in progress and there is always room to learn and
evolve at any point in time in the year. However, with everything that I went
through; I don't think I've been taught as much as I have last year than in any
other year. I thought it would be a nice way to begin my blogging year by sharing
some of what I am taking with me into 2017 and beyond.
Don't be a hypocrite. This one is so important. If
you don't like things being done to you (e.g. lying) then why would you do them
to anyone else?
Self-care and self-love are tremendously
important. No one is going to care for you as much as you should care for
yourself. It's okay to be selfish sometimes and take care of your own needs.
Try not to hurt anyone in the process but also don't over think especially if
you are uncomfortable or hurting. Be unapologetic in your need to maintain your
own sanity and contentment.
Don't let anyone make you feel like you are worthy of anything
less than respect and don't let anyone make you feel inferior. We are all
trying.
It is okay to ask for help but it's not okay to hold
that help over someone if it is given. Remember that even the left hand should not
know what the right hand gives.
Advise the ones you love but try to support them too
if they don’t take your advice. You were obviously asked to weigh in because
your opinion matters and that should be enough. They do know what they're doing
most of the time and you will be so surprised at what they can achieve.
Leave old prejudices and thought processes behind.
Be open to new things as long as they don't compromise your beliefs.
Spirituality is so significant. I know that some of
you reading this perhaps do not follow any religion or maybe don’t believe in
God but I just want to share what I personally experienced here. Waking up
before dawn to pray has literally changed my life in ways I cannot even
explain. Reflecting and unloading on the prayer mat has gotten me through the
bad times and even helped to guide me through the good ones.
Do not allow people to get away with treating you
badly because of their position in your life or relation to you. Relation is no
excuse for garbage behaviour toward someone!
Respect people and their choices and their ability
to make these choices. So simple but so important.
Don’t be afraid to love the things you love. It’s so
difficult in the age of social media but try not to live for others. You only
have to fit in with yourself.
Respect the things that people love and their
beliefs too. For example, a celebrity death may mean nothing to you but it can
mean something to someone and you will never know why. Your views and opinions aren't
the only ones out there.
When people insult and disrespect you it says more
about them than it does about you.
And finally, it begins with YOU! Don't become
complacent because something does not affect you directly. (E.g. Donald Trump,
I've seen so many just brush it off because they won't be the ones suffering
through his ridiculous and dangerous ideas). Fact check that thing that you
post first. Evaluate your ethics. Familiarize yourself with your preferences
(we all have them) and asses them. THINK about racism, THINK about rape
culture. Do not just brush it off or share that meme because likes. There is so
much more I can say here but I’ll stop and just say once again, IT BEGINS WITH
YOU!
I really hope that you all have a fantastic year. I want
you to be happy, healthy and to never ever feel like you are alone.
I’d love to hear what you’ve learnt and what you
will be taking with you into 2017. Pop a comment below or tweet me @LadyZaa
Until next time
Love and sparkles
Zaakira xox
